The World is in Short Supply of Angels

The suffering you’ve felt has been tremendous.

Your emotions have been picked apart, laughed at and trampled on.

The physical body that surrounds your broken soul is hurting and never can find comfort.

Suffering has forcibly become your new best friend, which isn’t the way it’s supposed to work.

Your world has become a monumental chaos. Stress is building day after day.

How can we possibly cope with this?

The future version of yourself needs the current one

If you are still alive thirty years from now, what will the end result be?

Who is that individual?

Will they be angry, depressed, bitter and sad?

Will they be full of bickering and complaints?

Will they hate the world and people because of the suffering they went through before?

How will they view the suffering you are facing right now?

Will they look back on the current stress and suffering you are going through now and know it was necessary to who they became or feel bitterness towards it?

The beauty of suffering is unmatched

Suffering is beautiful. Suffering is change.

Suffering will inevitably cause one to change. It changes our minds in incomprehensible ways.

Without your current pains, rather it be anxiety, depression, sickness, fear, overcoming hate, addiction, insecurity, heartbreak, injury, death from loved ones…you will not become the person you want to become. It takes more than simply wanting to be someone…it takes something called “experience” to achieve such a tremendous goal.

What do you honestly want to be 20, 30 or 40 years from now? a bitter, grumpy person who is obsessed with image, money and/or themselves…or someone who is seen as an angel to others…who people will look up to and need? Which one do you hope to become?

A Short supply of Angels in the world

The world has enough “cool” people. There are already enough rich people with “power”. There are enough people who obsess over validation and have fame. We already have Enough people who bully and hurt others for laughs and jokes.

There is an oversaturation of pride, hate, resent and “mind my own business”. Enough people who seek personal gain at the cost of other’s wellbeing.

There aren’t enough angels in the world. There aren’t enough people who lose their precious time for others. There aren’t enough people who seek to bring a light into others’ lives and give them hope. We are on a short supply of people who forget themselves to make people around them happier.

We lack enough of these angels, as they aren’t seen as cool, trendy or status symbols. They aren’t usually rich. Many go unnoticed, which isn’t glamourous or flamboyant. The journey to becoming an angel isn’t easy. It’s hard, and the life of an angel is the opposite of what society says it should be. Yet Angels are the happiest people, as they know content. They know it very well.

Angels are produced from suffering. Angels help others because they themselves felt tremendous pain in their lives at one point, allowing them to fully embrace empathy. Angels comprehend suffering, which gives them one of the most potent tools in reality to light up the lives of those around them. Angels rejected bitterness and hate when life got hard…instead using that suffering as fuel to bring light to others.

We are in desperate need of angels.

You are becoming an angel.

Smile through the suffering.

-Jarom

The Great Ethical Dilemma: Relationships and Standards

You finally meet the man of your dreams.

Finding him was impossible…until it wasn’t. He is everything you could have asked for…your checklist has no empty spots. It isn’t just his looks, but also his ability to communicate and his intelligence.

As always, you have your emotional guard up. This time around though, it seems to be dropping far more rapidly than usual. He seems to say all the right things at the right time. The cold heart you handed him has begun the process of defrosting.

After several months of deep conversations and fun dates…you commit to him. A few days after your fairy tale beginning…a conversation comes up unexpectedly.

The smile falls off your face as soon as you hear it…“I do not want you to go off to clubs”.

This comes as a shock to you. No man in your life has ever cared about you going off…enjoying life (as you should). Your girlfriends all have boyfriends…and they seemingly could care less about it. The social circle you’ve created would immediately see this “perfect” man as a screaming red flag.

Your whole life has been filled with beautiful (at times chaotic) moments with your rowdy friends. The theme of your life is to be in the moment, to party hard but work hard. This sudden contradiction in ideas is a sucker punch to your excitement.

“Why does it matter to you if I go have fun? You already seem controlling.” The passive reply from your mouth is full of offense and dissatisfaction. The butterflies you felt were hit by a fly swatter and left for dead.

“I’ve never had a woman go off to clubs and I cannot believe this is an issue for you” is his firm reply back.

You hang up on him, hop on TIKTOK and watch as many bias videos as you can in regard to justification for this issue of yours. By the end of the night, you’re certain that he is a control freak and a narcissist. The idea of breaking it off has already begun and you’ve just started.

My opinion is right…yours is…wrong?

What started off as a cute conversation between to love birds has now turned into an ethical dilemma: Who is right when both parties create their own subjective standards for their relationship?

One of the biggest flaws within relationships is that of standards. We all have developed our own personal set of standards for ourselves and our relationships. What we deem to be fine to do in a commitment is very much personal for each one of us. To counter this, we also have certain matters we set that are wrong and unethical to do within a commitment. Ultimately, many commitments are swamped with anxiety, anger and resent from this conflict of interest. Ethics are already a sensitive subject…and two parties finding mutual agreement on them can skyrocket into many negative emotions. For many, negative emotions are just the nails being put into a coffin slowly…the end of their relationship is inevitably going to happen.

Subjective means varying, changing and not firmly set. If you are using the word subjective in regard to people…than whatever you are referring to would be dependent on each and every individual. A good example of subjectivity in humans is opinions. We all have opinions on different matters, and for the most part we are all valid in them. If I like pizza with no cheese, call me weird but I’m just as much valid as someone who likes extra cheese on their pizza. If I love pineapples on my pizza and you don’t…we both are right. I cannot tell you that disliking pineapples on your pizza is wrong, and if I did you would call me unethical and wrong. (as you should).

Let’s drag subjectivity over to our commitments and our standards within them. It’s no different than our favorite flavor of ice-cream. My set of standards are just as valid as yours. In the example above, the woman (I used you, the reader) is no more right or wrong than the man is in regard to the situation. If he says she shouldn’t go to clubs, he is right. If she says she should be able to…she is right. They are both right. They both have their subjective reasons based off their social circles and life experiences.

This creates an ethical dilemma, one that, if not fixed…can destroy a relationship.

The only way for two parties to come together and make sense of this would be to somehow find an objective standard somewhere, one that is firmly set and accurate. Since science cannot solve any ethical problems, there is no scientific peer review you can find that could possibly prove what objective standard is right for any commitment. Science has its hands tied on anything ethical…logic and microscopes do nothing within the world of abstract values such as these.

Whatever would create these objective truths would be something outside this realm. Something that would be outside logic, physics, time and space. In order to present anything ethical as factual for our commitments…it could not use science as its source.

If we all had one source of factual standards somewhere to go to, it wouldn’t matter what they felt or thought on something…they would know that following the objective standard is the only right way. What this would mean in regard to the club dilemma above is that one of these individuals would be factually correct and the other…factually wrong. Therefore, they could both look to this objective standard for assistance in these matters.

What could I possibly be talking about here?

You’re smart, I know you can figure this one out.

-Jarom

Jesus the Christ: The Greatest Over-empath of All Time

As Jesus walked the sea of Gallie, we can only question what he thought in his Godly mind. He must of, at times, looked out at the sea he created and smiled like Vincent van Goh did to his finished paintings. I have this potent thought, that the sun must have come down over the massive surrounding mountains across the sea, shinning down on a certain savior who put his feet in the sand of the shore.

Imagine with me, waking up in a world that you created. You look out your window and everything you see is nothing less than a product of your finished painting. Every bird you hear and bug you see is your product. This entire reality as you know it is your beautiful project.

Every single creature in the ocean was known by Jesus and not a micro atom was unknown to him. All the mysterious of the world, from “bigfoot” sightings to unknown creatures in our oceans was known in detail to Christ. He was the final truth of every mystery of the world, a world that scientist attempt to figure out to this day.

Jesus, the Christ was hated, mocked and was seen as the bottom of bottoms on earth to most individuals 2000 years ago. The roman guards had quit the time laughing at his frail body as he lie in anguish from the brutal kicks to his body. Saliva ran down his beaten face from being spit on. Some argue that the whip that was used to hit his back could have revealed his bones to some extent, considering that it was made to tear flesh. He was then forced to carry an extremely awkward and heavy cross, the same cross he would later suffocate on to his death.

Now imagine with me again, how through all this, he had an astronomical comprehension of human suffering. In Psalms the writer says “put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?“. Not a tear has occurred in all human history that is not immediately grabbed and put into his book. Or, in other words, not a tear has fallen that he himself hasn’t felt.

Jesus, the perfect psychologist

When someone is in need of a psychologist, they typically pay some money, spend some time and listen in on what someone in the field has to say. If someone is battling the pains of depression, anxiety or fears, then a professional can offer some valuable help. Some need this assistance, and the professionals can really fine tune an individual’s mental state.

The only issue with hiring a psychologist is that they never really know how you actually feel. If someone is battling PTSD, they can only go off what the victim tells them, attempting to recollect various theories from professional literature to help the one in need. They can definitely offer assistance, but ultimately the only individual who knows the experience of their specific PTSD, is that individual and no one else on the planet. The same can be said about any part of human experience, we all feel various levels of suffering that no one experiences but only us. While some could argue that we feel similar pains, the reality is our sufferings are very specific to us. Getting help from a professional for suffering, especially mental suffering, is like trying to describe to someone about a beautiful dream you had…it never will come close to doing justice.

Why is this? why does this issue arise? The simple answer is something called “empathy”. empathy is having a comprehension of someone. The interesting thing about this, is that we as humans will never actually experience full empathy for each other, because we are limited to our own conscious experience. It quite literally would require us to live the exact same experience as the one who suffers to actually have a fullness of empathy for them. We can only say “I know how you feel, I’ve been there” but the reality is we haven’t literally experienced the exact same pains that individual is feeling. We only empathize with them because we too have similar or same sicknesses or sufferings. Each and every person walking on the earth, right now, has their own individual mental and physical pain that only they know is true…only they experience. Each conscious experience is unique and independent. This can be seen as both beautiful and lonely, in an ironic way.

Jesus has a bold way of stiff-arming what would be “lonely” above. He, a God, felt our pains and sorrows. When you’re suffering, your specific conscious experience has been felt before. In a sense, your pains and sorrows have already been lived. Jesus knows exactly your suffering; in fact, he knows the suffering of the hundreds of billions of people who walk and have walked the earth also.

The only way a psychologist could truly help you is to first live your conscious experience, to actually know how you feel. To feel your experience based off your brain chemistry and levels of serotonin, dopamine, Gaba, endorphins and norepinephrine. The radical differences in these chemicals are impossible to know in someone without experience itself. Studying external behavior and reading professional literature is nothing compared to actually the experience itself.

There is not a doubt in my mind that Jesus felt our pains and sorrows literally. Being a God, he knew as much as you and I know, that our experience is individual to us. in fact, our “experience” is the only thing we have in this existence. We never really own anything unique to us, except our own experience. He knew that in order to truly help, he must feel the dreadful mental, physical and emotional sorrows of being human for each one of us. Think with me, for this moment, of all the horrible executions, accidents, robberies and wars that have occurred. Now dig deeper and know that every single experience every individual has had in those instances were felt by Jesus. All the extreme experiences of depression, drugs and alcohol addictions. All the sickening feelings of heartbreak that one has felt. All the difficult bouts of PTSD that service men/woman felt and feel. The horror of losing a loved one. The list is endless.

Your pains have been experienced already, and because of this, the savior has perfected empathy. He is the embodiment of charity and empathy. He made sure that no stone was left unturned before he left to his glorified state.

The next time you feel sad from watching the news, from wars or accidents…or even if now, you’re experience depression or mental anguish, never forget who has felt it all, and who is always on stand-by to help.

-Jarom

Dating Is Starving for Spirituality

The superficiality of society. The obsession with body. With looks. With money. with status. People are attached to everything except God.

Dating is at an all-time low. Women use their bodies in search of love. Men use their money to return the favor. How do we not see how ridiculous this is? Dating is transactional in modern times. The man and woman are both objects that trade resources. Dating apps have made female validation skyrocket to depths it’s never touched before. Instead of waiting at a bar, a woman needs to look no further than Tinder for loads of matches from thirsty men. This in return delusions the perceptions of the masses, stabbing dating dynamics viciously.

Men on the other hand seek sex like puppets. Lust laughs as they are pulled into whatever direction it desires. Besides their mental prisons, they seek money and status in whatever way possible…in hopes that they can get the most attractive woman to toss on their merry-go-round of girls.

What are we doing? Does anyone else understand how absurd this is? The divorce rate is fifty percent and has been for years. People are getting married less and less. Anxiety and depression have skyrocketed over the past decade and isn’t slowing down. Toxicity is trendy and Religion is on the decline. Radical feminism is sprinkled across the masses and masculine philosophies have been created to combat it. Tiktok is full of women mocking men for their height, income or looks. Men do the same, attacking women for their looks or status. We live in a society of projection and insecurity, and it shows. Validation is a short-lived drug that is gone the following day. Is this what we’ve become?

People are attached to physical body. Men need to be ripped and women need the perfect curves. Well folks, there you have it. We are obsessed with something that will grow old and wrinkly one day. We are obsessed with an inch of skin. We are obsessed with something that is only an injury away from looking “ugly.” We are obsessed with attracting each other through sex, thus creating a society of confused and lost singles. If you attract someone with your body, then you best believe they will leave you for that exact same reason.

If a man gets a woman because of his status or income, how does he feel knowing he is only one hardship away from losing her too? He loses his job; he loses his girl too. Is this what he wants? Does he not care that his character, personality and feelings are meaningless overall? He is nothing more than an ATM that smiles.

Society needs spirituality so deeply. Dating needs spirituality. Dating is thirsty for God. It is thirsty for some form of faith.

People should step back. Honestly look at what they are doing and what they hope for in a partner. Do we not want honest authenticity? Do we not seek honest love? Do you not want a man or woman who will stick by your through all suffering and trials?

Women and men have checklists that could fill pages to what they need in a partner. A woman needs a tall, attractive, rich man. A man needs a curvy beautiful woman with perfect smile. This is a monumental issue in society: Most people will be searching for something that won’t be found. We have expectations that are ridiculous. We have a society of individuals who think they are models because of social media. We are a society of ghosting because we’re weak and too lazy to show love through communication. This is dreadful for dating. Our minds are delusional.

And honestly, both sex’s need to tear off a couple pages from their list of “needs” in a partner. Your poor lists will be sitting until you’re old.

We need spiritual relationships to make a comeback. We need spiritual connections that create powerful couples that don’t justify bad behavior. We need more love, not bashing each other’s sex. We need couples who have eternal perspectives, not worldly perspectives that die with their riches.

The sad reality is so many couples will live and die never actually feeling love. Instead, their obsession with materials and superficiality will always be their God. Validation will be their God. Sex is their God. Money is their God.

The irony of all of this is many men and women who are single desire a “Godly” partner but they themselves are devilish in nature. Do they really believe that someone who is Godly looks back and finds a slither of attraction? You attract what you project. Even an atheist can admit that a Godly individual of the opposite sex is attractive. Conservative is attractive. Why? A conservative individual has discipline and purpose. They have value in their potential partners and are aware of it. They know their value and resist their desires for something greater.

Become what you hope for in a partner…and allow God to be the matchmaker, not tinder.

And He Said Unto Them “Why Are Ye So Fearful? How is it That Ye Have No Faith?”

Everyday our thoughts stick a thorn in our peace as we constantly obsess over matters that don’t even exist…except in our minds. We have deep bouts of anxiety about all the “what ifs” in the unknown future. We question our lives. We compare ourselves to others on social media…a losing battle that will never be won. Human beings are filled with fear, anxiety and insecurity. We all hold hands on suffering…emotionally, mentally and physically. Some will wake up tomorrow to hear dreadful news from their doctor. Others will go to sleep tonight in tears from being cheated on. Many lose loved ones…unexpectedly. Suffering is as normal a part of life as the air we breathe.

Many suffer from horrible addictions that feel impossible to overcome. Rather it be pornography or a sinister drug, our lives are always only one puff, drink or click away from a deep dark hole. It ruins so many…a prison that can bring even the strongest individuals down. Independent of any “sin”, even the most radical atheists can see the destruction of addiction. It is part of reality, no matter your worldview.

Individuals, every day, wake up fearing what “might” happen, afraid of their abilities to get something done or supporting their families. People are afraid. Society is a collection of millions of people who are afraid. No matter how confident someone is, how much money they have, fear is always whispering to their consciousness. The mask people wear is taken off when they are alone. It is laid away until the next social media post or public appearance. No matter what, that mask is never forgotten as they walk out the door.

2000 years ago, on the sea of Galilee, a few good men doubted a God. They were filled with deep bouts of anxiety and fear as their boat tossed in the dark ocean. The storm they were under was causing even the most faithful men to scream in horror to their leader, who was sleeping. They fearfully yelled “Master, carest thou not that we perish? “In other words, the master they were so deeply invested in became nothing more than another human, in this moment. All the beautiful things Jesus did prior was completely ignored. In this moment, they looked at God in the face and doubted him. They doubted all he had told them. They doubted Their missions and their leaders’ missions. They chose fear over faith. Their faith was non-existent as they anxiously yelled for help. Ultimately, their minds totally forgot about the spirit he had gave them…it didn’t exist in their minds as the waves clashed against their boat.

As many of us know, Jesus woke up and stopped the nightmare around them. The disciples watched in shock as the clouds faded into a beautiful sky. He questioned why they doubted…like a disappointed parent.

Many could easily look at this story and shake their heads at the disciples. What was wrong with them? To actually be with Jesus and still doubt? How is that even possible? In our minds we think about how amazing it would be to see Jesus, to feel his hugs and walk with him…as if we somehow would be different than they were. As if we would react so differently. My friends, we are no different and we prove this almost daily. You prove it daily. I prove it daily. We are like a bunch of terrified disciples questioning God all the time…fearing what might happen. We say we have faith…while simultaneously fearing the unknown. We fear when we act on Gods words…considering all the terrible possibilities that could happen if it falls through. We fear of embarrassment. Of slander. We fear of physical pain and death. We fear of being cheated on. Our insecurities claw on our consciousness, never giving many a break. We try to control things we have no control over…as if thinking something enough can change reality. The list goes on and on.

I ask myself, if I were on that same boat 2000 years ago, what would I have done? Would I have stood strong and patiently waited in the corner as my friends woke Jesus? To say this bluntly: No. I can confirm with confidence that I would have been right there with the disciples. I would have been afraid as the boat rocked under the lightning and thunder. I would have been afraid and dreadfully anxious. How do I know this? Because I doubt God at times. My faith is far from whole. Even when I think my faith is strong, I realize in a moment’s notice it’s fragile as glass from my chaotic mind.

How often do we hold on, both hands still gripping, afraid to let go? How often do we say we have both feet in with Christ, but we actually have one still out “just in case?”

How often are people fearful to attack their addictions because it feels impossible? How often do we fear embarrassment from society, for Christ? How often are people harassed by their insecurity, telling themselves they are worthless? How often do people choose pleasures over God, rejecting the knowledge of a perfect being? That somehow, he might not come through, maybe sex, drugs, status and money actually is happiness? Maybe God isn’t real, I’m just not experiencing life fully. How often does this happen? If we are so confident in Jesus, he must ask us…”how is it that ye have no faith?”

JESUS THE CHRIST: HE IS REAL

I know Christ is real. He lives. He is my savior, he is yours. He is an atheist’s savior, if they so choose to accept him. He is the savior to every individual who has ever lived, who lives now and who will live. A perfect God came down to earth 2000 year ago to suffer the greatest pain imaginable to people who hated him and still do. The same people who spit on him and handed him vinegar to drink were the same people he loved beyond human comprehension. He was charity in the flesh…and is now charity on a throne. I don’t care who you are, how stupid and disgusting you feel, he loves you like an obsessed parent. All the horror in mankind, the suffering that is far too radical for our minds to grasp, is fully comprehendible to Christ, having felt every moment of fear and pain in human existence. All the horrible accidents, mental illness, executions, domestic abuse, bouts of profound embarrassment and social destruction…not a tear has been shed in all human existence which Jesus the Christ didn’t experience himself.

It’s time. If you read this far, I’m your push to just do it. You know Christ is real…so now you can let go. You have to act now. Put both feet in with Christ. Roll all your dice. Lay all your cards out in front of you, without question. Put your arms out wide and fall back. Stop questioning. Stop looking back.

To a heartbroken Jarius, whose daughter had just passed away…our savior pronounced,

“Be not afraid, only believe.”

He then proceeded to raise his daughter from the dead. What beautiful miracles await you?

He lives-

Jarom

The Irony of Resent

Resent. A most unusual part of this existence…the mental action of holding onto bad energy because of someone…while simultaneously knowing it makes us less happy.

Peace is something each one of us has the opportunity to feel in this existence. Peace is a withdrawal from unnecessary emotional stress and negativity. Peace is letting go of all resent, anger and frustrations. True peace is freedom. Freedom from lusts, cravings and fears.

In comes this little devil “resent”, who smothers our peace and well-being. Oddly, we know who he is, but have absolutely no issue in keeping the door wide open for him to walk right in. In fact, most of us don’t even recognize him until it’s too late. How often do you look back on something someone did, realizing that this little devil has been harassing you for weeks? or months? or years? He loves to quietly walk right into your mental house and take a comfortable seat next to you. Why do we leave the door open to someone whom we know is toxic, rude and stabs our peace?

We feel we are justified in feeling angry towards someone else for their actions or words. They did something bad to you, so you must be upset about this, and your perception must create frustrations even when they’re not around. In other words, we are saying that we are justified in being less happy. Let that truly sink in for me. We feel we are justified in being less peaceful, calm and content. How weird, irrational and illogical can we be? not only are we openly fine with being less peaceful…but we are quite literally allowing this to happen. Imagine getting burned by a hot stove, then actively sitting on it with your arms crossed?

You have to look at this logically with me. Independent of someone’s bad behavior and justification…you are less peaceful with resent. Really…think about this with me. When someone questions your negativity towards someone, you immediately begin giving justification on why you should be upset. In fact, most people are justified when they are upset about something someone did to them. They stole from you, unauthentic towards you, slandered you etc… but the reality is, it truly does not MATTER. You are less happy and peaceful. This is all you need to be focusing on. The goal for each one of us is to optimize our overall emotional well-being…at all times. Our unhappiness is entirely our own faults. Why? because our entire subjective experience is formed almost entirely in the mind, not in the world. Peace and happiness are formed behind your eyes, and we control it.

We have to look at this existence with less emotion and more rationality. our peace doesn’t care about what you “feel” or “think.” It just is. Therefore, you must look at your own personal peace apart from everything and everyone. independent of bad behavior. Independent of solid justification. Just look at it and do what is needed to be happier and more peaceful.

Are we responsible for someone else’s bad behavior? The answer is an obvious NO. So why are we contradicting ourselves?

-take note

-Jarom

Yes, I Actually Do Love you: Logically Making Sense of Charity

No, believers aren’t helping you because “Jesus said so.” We do it because we actually love you.

As a former atheist (yes, I said it again) One thing my old team would say was nothing less than Christians are nothing more than a bunch of phonies. “I can help someone without needing a God to tell me.” Their logic is actually very correct. Imagine that someone came up to help you and brightened your day. You smile and give thanks to them as they are about to leave. Instead of receiving more beautiful energy, you hear back from them “to be honest the only reason that I’m helping you right now is because someone else told me to.” Immediately you’d feel a sense of profound unauthenticity. Who would want help from someone who doesn’t want to be there? While I will grant that any help can be accepted at times, if it’s done without honesty, it strangles the beauty in it entirely.

The reality is I actually had to deeply consider this as a newly converted Christian. I truly had to comprehend that if this is how it actually is, that’s an issue with me. Of course, we have the power of Christ in us, a force that numbs the innate cravings we have for good…but am I really just serving and loving because “Jesus said so?”

The easy answer to this

After some time, the reality of how this works stabbed deep into my ignorance. While I’m far from omnipotent, I do know the logic aligns perfectly with how this works.

God loves us and shows us his love all the time, but when it comes to service and charity, he doesn’t have to push us. It’s not that God gives us anything regarding our love for others, it’s that he removes the conscious wall in this existence so we can see others for how we actually see them.

Every human has dramatically profound love for every individual on earth…but most people never experience this feeling because they have the drunk goggles of the natural man on. When we follow Christ, he comes in and removes these drunk goggles from our mind so we can perceive others with 20/20 vision. It’s not that we are acting because of the bible or because “Jesus told me to”… but because we have perfect vision instead of blurry vision.

Imagine that you had a certain form of dementia that made you lack comprehension of the most important people in your life. All your memories and love for them vanished as they became nothing more than distant strangers. Now imagine that with new technology, science was able to fix this dementia issue in your brain so you can comprehend them the same way that you used to. Your mind would be correctly functioning again.

This is nothing less than what is happening to us on a worldwide scale when we allow God to fix our distorted view of others. He corrects our perception and allows us to see others the way we actually see them, not with the conscious distortion of the natural man. God doesn’t actually need to do anything other than this, because once he removes this, he knows we will act independently…based off our own profound love for everyone on earth.

-Jarom

Consider The Lilies

When is the last time you were without your phone for more than an hour? When is the last time you actually chose to stop and look at the stars, instead of running to social media or Netflix? When is the last time you ignored your obligations to observe a squirrel running around the trees?

We as humans tend to have this attractive expectation that we’ll live to be a hundred…to experience a long life. We see ourselves with grandchildren and great grandchildren, waiting for family thanksgivings and gatherings. Simultaneously, we also nod our heads when someone says, “live each day like it’s your last,” knowing that reality really doesn’t care about our hopes. We tend to mentally stiff-arm the idea that at any given moment we could pass from this existence. We all know this is true, but subconsciously get lost into the most meaningless things. ridiculous drama, resent, our next vacation, unnecessary validation…the list is long. The reality is, many People who passed away felt they would live decades and decades longer, but the grim reaper had different plans. People leave this existence every minute of every day. Not a day goes by without the grim reaper making his rounds.

People argue with their spouses or lovers as they depart for the day, only to never get to say they’re sorry. Bullies find themselves clowning their targets one last time, feeling the horrific bouts of guilt as they discover they won’t have a target anymore. Loved ones get left on read as work duties take priority, which in return ends the last chance of communication in this life. There will always be a last time for all of us. We will all send one last text message. We will all make one last phone call. One last hug. One last drive home. One last social media post.

When we do leave this life, reality doesn’t care if it’s an expectation or second’s notice. Reality is harsh and unfair. It’s unemotional and rude. It doesn’t care about your next holiday or travels. It doesn’t care about your goodbyes or hugs. It comes when it wants.

My invitation to anyone who reads this, is to truly comprehend how beautiful this existence is. Even if you’re currently suffering, rather it be mental, emotional or physical…always remember that you’re still here. You’re alive…breathing and conscious. You’re a part of this weird experience we call “life.” How incredible is that?

Take time out of your stressful lives to be at one with reality. Let go of your chaotic thoughts and mental expectations. Watch the trees…observe the sky. Walking to your car at night isn’t without a beautiful visual of the space above. The darkness, filled with bright dots called stars, shouldn’t go unnoticed. Don’t let that bug crawl past you outside… stop and watch it. They have a purpose to fulfill in their littles worlds just like you have one in yours.

Let go of all your thoughts. Find a way to be in the moment only. Let go of all your stresses, fears, anxieties, hopes, thoughts…just be at one with being “human,” always be aware of this beautiful existence.

consider the lilies-

-Jarom

SCIENCE STEP YOUR GAME UP: HEAR ME OUT

Self-awareness?

Humans are self-aware. we receive self-awareness from anywhere between 3-5 years of age.
Whatever intelligence humans have between these ages are the intelligence necessary for self-awareness.
There are animals (Chimpanzee, Orangutan, Octopuses, Dolphins, etc…) That also reach the same intelligence as humans when we gain self-awareness. Some animals are extremely intelligent. For instance, a dolphin’s EQ (emotional intelligence) is extraordinarily high. Dolphins have been spoken of by scientists as “non-human” persons, they are so smart.
Therefore, they also have sufficient intelligence for self-awareness, and they should have self-awareness.
If you say no, then you are denying logic, or you must be in the only other option for reason below-

THE ONLY OTHER WAY THIS COULD WORK OUT

no animals have self-awareness except the human species.
Self-awareness is a monumental benefit to any species, so much that humans are superior to all other species largely in part because of it.
Evolution chose to give the human species self-awareness and not any other species on the planet.
Why did the human species gain self-awareness over all other creatures, even though some other species hit the same minimal Intelligence for awareness?

Science is always attempting to compare human intelligence to animals. I’d love to hear what science has to say on this situation.

Sorry science I don’t have a PHD, so you denied my twenty-page paper to your journals, maybe consider not committing internal credential fallacies and actually look at people’s ideas?

If I discovered the cure to all diseases in a bottle, they’d probably deny the paper. Science should focus on logic, rationale and facts over credentials and paper format.

It’s all love, but I feel good ideas should be accepted over logistics.

Just accept good ideas.

-Jarom

The Meaning of My Blog Name

“No attachment is freedom”. The name of my entire blog. What does this even mean? To be honest, I’d say that for most people, the name of my blog alone brings a certain level of comfort. There is something peaceful in just the mere idea of being able to be detached from all external things.

Meaning

I think the meaning is quite self-explanatory. To live your life almost entirely free of any emotional attachments to anyone or anything. This means your happiness is originated almost entirely from within, not from another person, car, house, your body, house or anything outside your consciousness. This does not mean you can’t allow things or people to add to your happiness, but the goals are to optimize emotional well-being to its fullest extent, alone, first.

for example, a breakup won’t break you, you will still be genuinely content and happy without that individual. While they may have added to your joy, they did not make your joy. This same logic is to be used in every other external factor in your little world.

Why?

We are in a society, that from birth, all our subjective experiences are geared towards finding external things to emotionally attach to. From the moment we start comprehending self-awareness, our consciousness is emotionally tossing itself out to whatever it so chooses. Even as a child, we were doing this. From video games to toys, we were already subconsciously giving away our emotional wellbeing to external things. As teenagers, we began dating and already giving our hearts away to people we barely even knew at the time.

As we become adults, it gets no better. If anything, our attachments to people and things just continues to grow. We become somewhat obsessed with houses, new cars, money, validation, sports, our bodies and other external matters. The most potent of all these things is other people, as in relationships. We are in a sense, tossing our happiness out like candy to all sorts of various things, subconsciously hoping they will all collectively hold up our emotional well-being.

The monumental issue with doing this, is any given day, you could lose all of these things. To broaden the perspective, even if you lost one thing, your happiness is going to be smothered. A man obsessed with money is only one bad recession from losing it. A person madly in love is only a breakup away from losing their world. Someone obsessed with their bodies and physical appearance is only one injury away from emotional destruction. The average individual in society is attached to everything except themselves.

It’s not only about “things” or “people” regarding attachment, but also the innate aspect of yourself. The innate emotional clinging to every negative issue or energy you receive. Yes, we all innately have these things, it’s a part of us naturally, yet just because it’s innate does not mean it is helping us. It’s actually destroying us, subtly. How many otherwise good men are weak and fragile with their lust? How many people can’t let go of arguments, road rage, rude energy or disrespect? how many people depend on validation to keep moving forward on their ideas? Even if you feel complete justification for acting upon these matters, you are still losing. What is happiness without freedom? These are powerful natural strings that have us tied down and it takes comprehension of this in order to tear away from them. Take mental notes.

This is concerning to me. Most people don’t even understand themselves, who they are and what their purpose is. They just follow society, running from high-to-high throwing up their happiness to everything around them like dollar bills in a strip club.

Suffering Vs. Detachment

A part of the reason detachment brings peace is due to its colossal ability to almost entirely stiff-arm suffering. Emotional suffering will be radically reduced by detachment. I firmly believe, that with correct mediation and mental comprehension, you could literally lose all things in your life and still continue to feel authentic content. If an individual lost everything, was forced into a state of being entirely alone with nothing, they could in fact feel the refreshing waters of peace through it all. If you actually think about it, a massive portion of human suffering comes from losing attachment to something or someone. This one concept is the author of sorrow for most people. To radically cut out the potential for mental anguish in your life is a comfortable, calming thought, in itself.

How

The reality is most people are not going to be able to hide away in the mountains and live the life of a monk. This is terribly unrealistic. I do believe that there are three ways to attain the fullness of detachment for anyone though. They are:

Perspective
Meditation
Self-awareness

Perspective: Understand the reality of this existence. The value of the moment and time. A true comprehension of how beautiful life is, has potent power. Just knowing that at any given moment you could leave this existence, is to be deeply valued. How many people actually are in the “moment”? How many people worldview is drowning in ignorance? Perspective takes time and considerable mindfulness for most people to achieve. We must understand the world for how it “actually” is, not what we wish it would be.

Meditation is quite self-explanatory. It is the act of manually stopping everything in your life, putting all obligations on hold, to focus on nothing but a specific thought. The act of mental exercise will create a secure, hefty and robust mind, putting each thought on a leash. Imagine how that would affect your peace? Meditation is ridiculously underrated and underused. It single handedly, is the answer to world peace. I said what I said.

Self-awareness is in regard to external factors in your life. Such as a new commitment or your possessions. Awareness is knowing how your emotions are connected to these things. Having comprehension of what exactly is occurring to your emotions allows one to stop it before it dives off the ledge. This takes time for most people also, considering we are emotional creatures and usually aren’t thinking about “emotions”, we just go with the flow, thus opening the door to suffering.

Final thoughts

We start comprehension as a child, trying to figure out reality and be accepted. Our ignorance as a child typically leads us into a losing existence of attachments and suffering as we grow into adults. It doesn’t matter if you’re rich, famous and attractive, if you’re unhappy you, the emotional well-being that gives you reason to live is dehydrated and starving. Just as much as your subjective experience is only yours, you’re entirely responsible for your own happiness and liberation. This is all up to you. No one can jump into your “experience” and change this issue. This is the reality of life. The beautiful truth about all of this is we all can find authentic peace in this existence through meditation, honest perspective and legitimate self-awareness.

As yourself, as you read this right now… “am I honestly happy and content”?

-Jarom