#selfawareness – NO ATTACHMENT IS FREEDOM

Dating Is Starving for Spirituality

The superficiality of society. The obsession with body. With looks. With money. with status. People are attached to everything except God.

Dating is at an all-time low. Women use their bodies in search of love. Men use their money to return the favor. How do we not see how ridiculous this is? Dating is transactional in modern times. The man and woman are both objects that trade resources. Dating apps have made female validation skyrocket to depths it’s never touched before. Instead of waiting at a bar, a woman needs to look no further than Tinder for loads of matches from thirsty men. This in return delusions the perceptions of the masses, stabbing dating dynamics viciously.

Men on the other hand seek sex like puppets. Lust laughs as they are pulled into whatever direction it desires. Besides their mental prisons, they seek money and status in whatever way possible…in hopes that they can get the most attractive woman to toss on their merry-go-round of girls.

What are we doing? Does anyone else understand how absurd this is? The divorce rate is fifty percent and has been for years. People are getting married less and less. Anxiety and depression have skyrocketed over the past decade and isn’t slowing down. Toxicity is trendy and Religion is on the decline. Radical feminism is sprinkled across the masses and masculine philosophies have been created to combat it. Tiktok is full of women mocking men for their height, income or looks. Men do the same, attacking women for their looks or status. We live in a society of projection and insecurity, and it shows. Validation is a short-lived drug that is gone the following day. Is this what we’ve become?

People are attached to physical body. Men need to be ripped and women need the perfect curves. Well folks, there you have it. We are obsessed with something that will grow old and wrinkly one day. We are obsessed with an inch of skin. We are obsessed with something that is only an injury away from looking “ugly.” We are obsessed with attracting each other through sex, thus creating a society of confused and lost singles. If you attract someone with your body, then you best believe they will leave you for that exact same reason.

If a man gets a woman because of his status or income, how does he feel knowing he is only one hardship away from losing her too? He loses his job; he loses his girl too. Is this what he wants? Does he not care that his character, personality and feelings are meaningless overall? He is nothing more than an ATM that smiles.

Society needs spirituality so deeply. Dating needs spirituality. Dating is thirsty for God. It is thirsty for some form of faith.

People should step back. Honestly look at what they are doing and what they hope for in a partner. Do we not want honest authenticity? Do we not seek honest love? Do you not want a man or woman who will stick by your through all suffering and trials?

Women and men have checklists that could fill pages to what they need in a partner. A woman needs a tall, attractive, rich man. A man needs a curvy beautiful woman with perfect smile. This is a monumental issue in society: Most people will be searching for something that won’t be found. We have expectations that are ridiculous. We have a society of individuals who think they are models because of social media. We are a society of ghosting because we’re weak and too lazy to show love through communication. This is dreadful for dating. Our minds are delusional.

And honestly, both sex’s need to tear off a couple pages from their list of “needs” in a partner. Your poor lists will be sitting until you’re old.

We need spiritual relationships to make a comeback. We need spiritual connections that create powerful couples that don’t justify bad behavior. We need more love, not bashing each other’s sex. We need couples who have eternal perspectives, not worldly perspectives that die with their riches.

The sad reality is so many couples will live and die never actually feeling love. Instead, their obsession with materials and superficiality will always be their God. Validation will be their God. Sex is their God. Money is their God.

The irony of all of this is many men and women who are single desire a “Godly” partner but they themselves are devilish in nature. Do they really believe that someone who is Godly looks back and finds a slither of attraction? You attract what you project. Even an atheist can admit that a Godly individual of the opposite sex is attractive. Conservative is attractive. Why? A conservative individual has discipline and purpose. They have value in their potential partners and are aware of it. They know their value and resist their desires for something greater.

Become what you hope for in a partner…and allow God to be the matchmaker, not tinder.

The Irony of Resent

Resent. A most unusual part of this existence…the mental action of holding onto bad energy because of someone…while simultaneously knowing it makes us less happy.

Peace is something each one of us has the opportunity to feel in this existence. Peace is a withdrawal from unnecessary emotional stress and negativity. Peace is letting go of all resent, anger and frustrations. True peace is freedom. Freedom from lusts, cravings and fears.

In comes this little devil “resent”, who smothers our peace and well-being. Oddly, we know who he is, but have absolutely no issue in keeping the door wide open for him to walk right in. In fact, most of us don’t even recognize him until it’s too late. How often do you look back on something someone did, realizing that this little devil has been harassing you for weeks? or months? or years? He loves to quietly walk right into your mental house and take a comfortable seat next to you. Why do we leave the door open to someone whom we know is toxic, rude and stabs our peace?

We feel we are justified in feeling angry towards someone else for their actions or words. They did something bad to you, so you must be upset about this, and your perception must create frustrations even when they’re not around. In other words, we are saying that we are justified in being less happy. Let that truly sink in for me. We feel we are justified in being less peaceful, calm and content. How weird, irrational and illogical can we be? not only are we openly fine with being less peaceful…but we are quite literally allowing this to happen. Imagine getting burned by a hot stove, then actively sitting on it with your arms crossed?

You have to look at this logically with me. Independent of someone’s bad behavior and justification…you are less peaceful with resent. Really…think about this with me. When someone questions your negativity towards someone, you immediately begin giving justification on why you should be upset. In fact, most people are justified when they are upset about something someone did to them. They stole from you, unauthentic towards you, slandered you etc… but the reality is, it truly does not MATTER. You are less happy and peaceful. This is all you need to be focusing on. The goal for each one of us is to optimize our overall emotional well-being…at all times. Our unhappiness is entirely our own faults. Why? because our entire subjective experience is formed almost entirely in the mind, not in the world. Peace and happiness are formed behind your eyes, and we control it.

We have to look at this existence with less emotion and more rationality. our peace doesn’t care about what you “feel” or “think.” It just is. Therefore, you must look at your own personal peace apart from everything and everyone. independent of bad behavior. Independent of solid justification. Just look at it and do what is needed to be happier and more peaceful.

Are we responsible for someone else’s bad behavior? The answer is an obvious NO. So why are we contradicting ourselves?

-take note

-Jarom

Consider The Lilies

When is the last time you were without your phone for more than an hour? When is the last time you actually chose to stop and look at the stars, instead of running to social media or Netflix? When is the last time you ignored your obligations to observe a squirrel running around the trees?

We as humans tend to have this attractive expectation that we’ll live to be a hundred…to experience a long life. We see ourselves with grandchildren and great grandchildren, waiting for family thanksgivings and gatherings. Simultaneously, we also nod our heads when someone says, “live each day like it’s your last,” knowing that reality really doesn’t care about our hopes. We tend to mentally stiff-arm the idea that at any given moment we could pass from this existence. We all know this is true, but subconsciously get lost into the most meaningless things. ridiculous drama, resent, our next vacation, unnecessary validation…the list is long. The reality is, many People who passed away felt they would live decades and decades longer, but the grim reaper had different plans. People leave this existence every minute of every day. Not a day goes by without the grim reaper making his rounds.

People argue with their spouses or lovers as they depart for the day, only to never get to say they’re sorry. Bullies find themselves clowning their targets one last time, feeling the horrific bouts of guilt as they discover they won’t have a target anymore. Loved ones get left on read as work duties take priority, which in return ends the last chance of communication in this life. There will always be a last time for all of us. We will all send one last text message. We will all make one last phone call. One last hug. One last drive home. One last social media post.

When we do leave this life, reality doesn’t care if it’s an expectation or second’s notice. Reality is harsh and unfair. It’s unemotional and rude. It doesn’t care about your next holiday or travels. It doesn’t care about your goodbyes or hugs. It comes when it wants.

My invitation to anyone who reads this, is to truly comprehend how beautiful this existence is. Even if you’re currently suffering, rather it be mental, emotional or physical…always remember that you’re still here. You’re alive…breathing and conscious. You’re a part of this weird experience we call “life.” How incredible is that?

Take time out of your stressful lives to be at one with reality. Let go of your chaotic thoughts and mental expectations. Watch the trees…observe the sky. Walking to your car at night isn’t without a beautiful visual of the space above. The darkness, filled with bright dots called stars, shouldn’t go unnoticed. Don’t let that bug crawl past you outside… stop and watch it. They have a purpose to fulfill in their littles worlds just like you have one in yours.

Let go of all your thoughts. Find a way to be in the moment only. Let go of all your stresses, fears, anxieties, hopes, thoughts…just be at one with being “human,” always be aware of this beautiful existence.

consider the lilies-

-Jarom

You Probably Don’t Grasp Just How Little Neuroscience Understands Consciousness

Clearing up some misconceptions people have of the current state of Neuroscience regarding human consciousness.

THEY ARE LOST (respectfully). Overall, neuroscience is light years from having any collective agreement on what it is, unless there is some random miraculous discovery sometime soon. Collectively, neuroscience has NO CLUE what the matter of consciousness is, where it is sourced from or WHY it even just randomly appears to begin with. It’s all philosophy and abstract rationale right now. Various theories that fight for first place with no one staying on top of the mountain very long. I’ve seen countless individuals lack comprehension of what science understands of this mystery so let me break it down below.

1. where it’s sourced from is not the same as explaining where it is housed in.

2. The consciousness is bound by the physical brain, no one argues this. If I lose a part of my brain of course that effects the consciousness, apart from this being blatantly obvious, science has proven through peer review that the consciousness is bound by the brain.

3. There is no collective answer in the slightest of anything of consciousness regarding its material, where it comes from or why it even randomly pops up from Neurons as opposed to other material. For example, why does consciousness appear only in a physical brain and not a piece of wood? Or a lung? As ridiculous as this sounds, it’s a valid mystery which is explained below.

4. The explanatory Gap is a well-known issue in the Philosophical world that science agrees with. This is the “mystery” of how a physical material gives rise to abstract “feeling” aka consciousness. There is a reason why this is a monumental debate, because it is completely unknown how this occurs. like…COMPLETELY unknown. it’s all theories and logic. NO EVIDENCE. There is no evidence, why? Because we don’t KNOW THE MATERIAL of consciousness and we would need to know it to some degree before knowing if it’s being sourced entirely from a physical neuron and not using the brain as a host. People use the “evidence” of how science knows what parts of the physical brain the consciousness is attached to and assume this is also explaining the source of consciousness which respectfully, is a causation fallacy. Simply saying we know that science confirms that the physical brain BOUNDS the consciousness is NOT giving a sprinkle of evidence that it is SOURCED from there. SOURCED means the neurons are producing the consciousness entirely themselves and we simply don’t know this until we actually understand the “Explanatory Gap.”

For anyone to shut the door on other realities is pure blind faith. I’ve read peer review papers that from the start are biased towards other realities…it stiff-arms the idea from the start. If there were other realities involved in this reality, then imagine closing the door to it and forcing a materialist study. This is called a waste of time.

Science needs to always keep their minds open and comprehend that we don’t know as much as we think we do, so keeping the door open to other realities is necessary at all times.

-Jarom

SCIENCE STEP YOUR GAME UP: HEAR ME OUT

Self-awareness?

Humans are self-aware. we receive self-awareness from anywhere between 3-5 years of age.
Whatever intelligence humans have between these ages are the intelligence necessary for self-awareness.
There are animals (Chimpanzee, Orangutan, Octopuses, Dolphins, etc…) That also reach the same intelligence as humans when we gain self-awareness. Some animals are extremely intelligent. For instance, a dolphin’s EQ (emotional intelligence) is extraordinarily high. Dolphins have been spoken of by scientists as “non-human” persons, they are so smart.
Therefore, they also have sufficient intelligence for self-awareness, and they should have self-awareness.
If you say no, then you are denying logic, or you must be in the only other option for reason below-

THE ONLY OTHER WAY THIS COULD WORK OUT

no animals have self-awareness except the human species.
Self-awareness is a monumental benefit to any species, so much that humans are superior to all other species largely in part because of it.
Evolution chose to give the human species self-awareness and not any other species on the planet.
Why did the human species gain self-awareness over all other creatures, even though some other species hit the same minimal Intelligence for awareness?

Science is always attempting to compare human intelligence to animals. I’d love to hear what science has to say on this situation.

Sorry science I don’t have a PHD, so you denied my twenty-page paper to your journals, maybe consider not committing internal credential fallacies and actually look at people’s ideas?

If I discovered the cure to all diseases in a bottle, they’d probably deny the paper. Science should focus on logic, rationale and facts over credentials and paper format.

It’s all love, but I feel good ideas should be accepted over logistics.

Just accept good ideas.

-Jarom